There comes a time an anyone’s life when it is time to stop doing what you are doing and do something else. Sometimes it’s for obvious reasons like the idea that if you don’t stop it will kill you. Mostly though, the reasons people quit have nothing to do with that kind of risk. Most of us aren’t taking the sorts of chances that would lead to this being a likely outcome.
In most day-to-day situations, we quit because of the momentum loss of breaking a habit we’re trying to establish. Often times when we make a mistake, we end up feeling a sense of guilt or hopelessness that attaches itself like a parasite on to the thing we were doing. This is not the time to quit.
You are going to screw up. Repeat this out loud. (I don’t care if it’ll get you funny looks. Do it). I am GOING to screw up. I am going to fail. I am going to mess things up so badly that I need to bulk order duct tape and super glue in order to even THINK about fixing it. Did you say it? No. Didn’t think so. It’s true though.
You learned to walk? That means you’ve fallen a lot. I’m sure you probably got back up. Well guess, what. You need to be as tough as you were when you were like 13 months old. Suck it up. The alternative to tenacity in the face of messing up is misery and death.
How do you do this? I’ve had a few teachers and summer camp counsellors use the “how fascinating” method. Throwing your hands in the air, taking a big breath and shouting “how FASCinating!!!” instead of beating yourself up is silly, but it can be really effective. More importantly, you need to lear to forgive the sin and repent.
What repent? Luke, you adding religion to this? No. To sin means to error. To repent means to turn away from that error (sin). See? No biggie. That means, if you mess up and have dessert when it’s not your “cheat day”, you need to acknowledge it and move on. No big deal.
This is not when to quit. This is a minor setback.
There are a few times you SHOULD quit what you’re doing and they are as follows.
1) you realize your goals have changed.
2) you realize your actions are not leading to your goals
3) you realize your pursuit is harmful to yourself and/or those around you on a level you’re unhappy with.
You realize your goals have changed
Now is what you’d think would be the most obvious time to quit.